Why Won’t My Son Sleep?

Picture this. I’m having a well deserved, and much needed, sleep. It’s 3am and Joshua has woken, a desperate cry for mommy and daddy echoes the house. It was the same yesterday and the day before that. It’s the same every night. 
It’s now 4:30am and, despite numerous attempts, Joshua is still awake. We’ve got him in our bed but it’s no use, we’ve tried putting him in his cot but the cries are heartbreaking. 
Sleep certainly is for the weak. 

Joshua has never really been a good sleeper. As a newborn he would wake every hour of the night to feed. I would nurse him and it would take him half hour at least to fall back to sleep before he woke again, 30 minutes later, for the next feed. It was exhausting. Even when we had to switch to formula at 3 months old, he was still waking every 2 hours and this went on for months.

I’ve mentioned before how me and Darren are Joshua’s comfort, he needs us to sleep. I’ve never minded, anything to keep my children happy, but now it’s taking it’s toll. We have to hold and cuddle Joshua to sleep every night, it usually takes 15-20 minutes before he falls asleep, then we can transfer him to his cot and he’s alright until 3am, sometimes 4am. That’s where it all goes wrong. 
I’m not a fan of the cry it out method, and I’ve talked about it before, but I had to try something so we tried a standard sleep training method – the one where you extend the period of crying after going in to settle them. That didn’t work because he would cry himself silly. I’ve sat in his room for however long stroking his head through the bars. We bring him into our bed, we sit up and cuddle him back to sleep but it just takes forever to get him back to sleep. 
It’s not even a phase anymore, it’s been going on for far too long, and I’m at a loose end as to what we can do. In my head I know that it’ll get better and that one day we won’t have to do this, but that feels like a lifetime away when we’re up for hours at night.

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  1. Emily Peacock

    11 January, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    Oh lovely, I really feel for you – must be especially tough with 3 little ones to look after! I really hope you get to the bottom of it soon xx

  2. Angela Webster

    11 January, 2017 at 9:31 pm

    I can imagine how difficult it is for you, sleep deprivation and broken sleep is the worst thing ever. Could you talk to a health visitor and see if they can suggest something ? I really hope you can find a solution soon. Thanks for linking up with #TuesdayTreasures

  3. Amy Espley

    12 January, 2017 at 8:22 am

    I'm praying that one day he just goes "actually I'm going to sleep all night tonight" haha. Wishes come true, don't they? Xx

  4. Amy Espley

    12 January, 2017 at 8:24 am

    I think if he carries on any longer than I'm going to have to ask them, although they'll probably advise me to consider sleep training. :/

  5. Toni | Gym Bunny Mummy

    15 January, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    I feel your pain. Archie is four and still doesn't sleep through the night, sometimes he literally pulls all nighters and doesn't even go to bed. He has Autism so it's something we're just going to have to deal with. I'd definitely suggest speaking to your HV as before we knew about Archie's Autism they put me on a sleep course which gave some really god tips and did help us a little #SundayBest

  6. Entertaining Elliot

    15 January, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    It's so tough isn't it. Have you tried speaking to your health visitor? A friend of mine was having really bad issues with her children not sleeping and she was at her wits end, she'd tried everything she could think of! I think the HV actually came round at bedtime and talked her through some more things she could try. Might be worth a go! Good luck though, sleep deprivation is the worst xx #sundaybest

  7. Kerry Conway

    15 January, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    Ah it's so tough! My brother's were like this and I think my mum had medication in the end to get them to sleep! Not advised but she's hit the ground with them not sleeping. It's so tough.. I've heard they sleep better in a room with a sibling, could that be an option? #sundaybest x

  8. Rach

    16 January, 2017 at 10:54 am

    Oh hun, I remember these days so well and do you know what we did? We followed our child and said sod the cot! We brought him into our own bed and he slept just fine there. We co slept for quite a few years and it worked far better for us all. Thanks for joining in with #TuesdayTreasures.

  9. Hayley: Sparkles and Stretchmarks

    21 January, 2017 at 9:58 pm

    I can totally relate. We've been having a terrible time with my middle childs sleeping habits lately, it's so hard to know what to do.
    Thank you for joining us at #SundayBest – hope to see you again tomorrow! xx

  10. Sian QuiteFranklySheSaid

    22 January, 2017 at 9:34 am

    Oh no that sounds so tough. Both of my boys haven't been the best sleepers, my eldest was up 2 hourly until he was over a year old. I think it's worth speaking to your HV to see if there might be an underlying reason – if there's not and they just suggest sleep training then you can just decide not to do it if you're not comfortable. Thank you for linking up to #SundayBest and I hope your nights get easier soon!x

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