Push Presents: Gifts for Giving Birth
According to Wikipedia, push presents are a present a partner gives to the mother to mark the occasion of her giving birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room. It also says that if the mother has a complicated labour or even under-goes a c-section then she is to receive 2 push presents. When I had Keira, I didn’t know that this was a thing. It wasn’t until Joshua was born that I realised push presents were expected by many mothers.
When Keira and Joshua were born, I received gifts for them. Baby items like blankets, clothes and cute little teddies but nothing for me and that was okay as I wasn’t expecting anyone to get me a gift. I just wanted to sleep after those excruciating painful few hours in labour. A few days after Joshua’s arrival though, I began seeing images and posts, all over social media, about receiving gifts after you’d had a baby and it made me question whether I should have received a gift. I had put a lot of hard work into creating, and birthing, a baby after-all.
I mentioned it to Darren, but no gift ever came.
But this seemed to be getting more and more popular. It was all over social media and there were even many women receiving gifts many months after having their babies, mainly because they had heard of these push presents and talked their partners into it.
By the time that Zara was born, it was me who was receiving gifts after the baby was born, friends and family said it was because they couldn’t think of anything to buy for the baby as we literally had everything we needed. It was lovely to receive gifts for myself; wine, chocolate, flowers and pyjamas – what woman doesn’t want those? But I couldn’t help feel bad that I was receiving a gift for a gift I had given to the world.
Still no push present from Darren though.
A baby is the greatest gift anyone could ever receive, and for me is the only gift I would ever need, so I would never expect to receive any gifts for myself.
So should we expect to receive a push present once we’ve given birth? I don’t think we should expect to receive something, but if someone wants to get us a present then I’m sure we’ll happily receive it. Giving birth isn’t easy so we should be rewarded for that, right?
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