11 Random Things Tag

I love doing these tag posts, even if I don’t actually get tagged but that doesn’t exactly matter does it! It’s still a way of getting to know a bit more about me and what I’m like as a person rather than just some text on a screen!
Well let’s crack on!
Do you know a good joke?
Possibly not. What’s pink and fluffy? Pink fluff!
How awful.
What do you think about beards?
I don’t mind them but I prefer Darren to be clean shaven.
Why did you start blogging?
I started blogging because I wanted to document my pregnancy, at the time, as well as my children as they grow up.

What’s your favourite Disney film?
Oh, I think it’s between The Sword in the Stone and Robin Hood.
If you could be invisible for a day – what would you do?
Before I had children I’d probably say someone hot celebrities shower room, but now I’d probably like to be invisible around the house while Darren has both children so I can spy on him haha.
Cats or dogs?
Dogs every time. I do like cats but I’d much prefer a dog!
What’s your favourite snack?
Crisps!! I have to stop myself from buying them at the weekly shop because I’d just eat the whole multi pack in a day.
What’s your favourite song?
I’m not sure I have a favourite song. There is just so many that I love!
If you could be a celebrity for a day – who and why?
Oh, this is a hard one. I’m really not sure who I would like to be. I honestly don’t know and I can’t think of anyone who I’d want to be.
What’s your most embarrassing moment?
Oh that would probably be when I was sick all over myself on my first night out after having Keira and having to go home early because I was a drunken mess.
What do you love most about yourself?
I love my ability to comfort my children with nothing more than a kiss and cuddle.
I don’t like seeing my children upset so it’s amazing to know that I can comfort them so easily.
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Two Under Two

I have to admit that having two under two definitely is no walk in the park. I knew it was going to be a challenge and everyone told me that it wasn’t going to be easy. But I am loving every minute of it. Yes my house might be a little messier than usual and yes there may be a pile of ironing growing in the basket but who cares? Me and my children are happy and loved and that’s all that matters! I’d always said that I wanted two children under the age of two, so that they could grow up being similar in age with hopes of them being the best of friends and having similar interests so we was able to get that spot on! (Here’s to hoping they grow up to be the best of friends too!)
I have to say though, you definitely do adapt and you just get on with it.

I think that if I wasn’t breastfeeding Joshua it would definitely be a lot easier. I have spent so much time feeding Joshua since he’s been born that I haven’t actually been able to spend as much time as I’d like to with Keira. Although as soon as I have been able to put Joshua down I have been straight by her side trying to interact with her, even if she moans because she was happily playing on her own.
I’m forever grateful that Keira decided to start sleeping through once Joshua was born because it has made night feeds so much easier. On the nights that Keira has awoken I’ve had to send Darren in because I’m normally tending to Joshua.
Leaving the house is definitely something we’re working on as it takes us far too long to leave the house. We always get to the point of being ready to leave and someone’s either been sick everywhere, had a poo or throwing a strop so it ends up taking us ages haha! I definitely have to plan outfits and pack the changing bag the night before so that it’s one less thing to worry about.
Keira always seems to know when Joshua is having an off day and chooses that day to play up. I tend to use the phrases “No Keira, that’s dangerous” and “Keira stop poking Joshua in the eyes” a lot. But we get through them and I’m relieved for Darren to get home so that he can take Keira off my hands.
My top tips for staying sane are:
The housework can wait 
There’s no rush for the housework, you can always do it when both children are asleep; at least that way it’ll stay clean until the morning!
Don’t change their routine
I’ve added Joshua to Keira’s routine. I think that this lets her know that everything is exactly the same as before, just with an extra mouth to feed! Nothing about Keira’s routine has changed and she’s happily accepted Joshua as a part of her routine now; like giving him kisses and cuddles in the morning and at bedtime.
Get them involved
Keira is forever passing me nappies and wipes when it’s time for a bum change. She even uses a wipe to help wipe Joshua during the bum change and she loves being involved. She also loves giving Joshua his blanket if he cries and she tries to give him his dummy if she’s seen me do it once already. Lastly, I always try and get her to sit next to me for a cuddle when I’m feeding Joshua. I don’t want her to feel like me feeding Joshua is me giving him cuddles and not her so I always try to involve her.
Kids TV is okay!
As much as I cannot stand the voice of Peppa Pig and the jiggle of the Ninky Nonk, I’m grateful that Keira will happily sit and watch TV, even if it is for a short period of time. It gives me that extra 10 or so minutes to sort Joshua out without having to worry about Keira.
You do just find your own way of doing things, and some toddlers are lot more dependent on mommy than others, but you all quickly adjust to having a new baby in the home and as much as I did struggle at the beginning I know it will eventually get easier and they’ll soon be occupying each other and teaching other new tricks to wind up mommy and daddy. But for now I’m not even going to stress about it, it feels like both Keira and Joshua have been apart of our lives forever and some days I can’t believe that I am a mommy to these two beautiful children. I’m definitely going to bed with a smile every night.
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One Month Breastfeeding Update

As soon as I found out I was expecting Joshua I knew I wanted to breastfeed. I’d formula fed Keira so I didn’t really know what I was in for but it was something that I was determined to do.
After Joshua was born he latched onto my breast instantly without any problems and he had a great feed. The next few days went pretty well too. His latch was great and he was feeding well, the cluster feeding was a bit demanding but it was manageable as Darren was home to help out with Keira.

By day 5 the midwife came to visit. Joshua had maintained his birth weight, which was excellent, and the midwife said he had a great latch. My nipples were a bit sore from all the cluster feedings but I just got on with it. They are still sore now, but only for the first couple of seconds when he latches. My nipples haven’t cracked nor have they been ridiculously sore, maybe that could be thanks to the Lansinoh HPA Lanolin cream.
My supply has been incredible to be honest, as soon as my breasts stopped being so engorged and felt normal I was incredibly worried that I’d lost my supply and that Joshua wasn’t getting enough milk. I now know that this is a common thing that many mother’s worry about. I never once supplemented with formula and I just continued putting Joshua on the breast every time he showed signs of hunger. It was demanding, tiring and stressful but I done my best. Within a few days, my supply was showing off. Every time Joshua latched onto one breast, the other would leak and squirt milk everywhere. It was then that I knew that there was no problems with my supply.
Joshua tends to only feed from one side at a time during the day. At night he’ll feed from both sides before falling back to sleep. He doesn’t seem to have a favourite, I don’t really think he cares as long as he’s getting some milk!
I’ve pumped some milk that I’ve put in the freezer, for those just in case moments. I could easily get 60 to 90ml from my right breast and only 20 to 30ml from the left, although recently I have managed 60 to 90ml from the left too so I know that breast is building it’s supply up. He has had some expressed milk from a bottle, we used the Dr Brown’s Anti Colic bottles and we have had no troubles with nipple confusion.
I honestly didn’t think that I would enjoy breastfeeding as much as I am, I love the closeness and the bond that I have with Joshua. The only part I don’t enjoy is all the poopy nappies! He poops so much, Keira only went once or twice a week but Joshua poops in every nappy! I know breast milk acts as a laxative but come on!!
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What I’ve Done Different Second Time Around

Becoming a parent for the first time is definitely a scary process. Pregnancy and labour are hard enough to get through without having to worry about what happens after you’ve delivered. Everyone certainly has different ideas and views regarding parenting but it literally is all trial and error.
You’re thrown in at the deep end with a very cute, crying baby and you have no idea what you’re supposed to do! You’re given various different pieces of advice from different health professionals, family and friends about how you should raise your child but most of the advice just isn’t for you or your baby! I’ve learnt a lot since I became a mom. I’ve learnt it on the go and by doing things my own way rather than doing what someone else has told me to do.

1. Not using Google.

Everyone does it, if we need the answer for something we ask Google. As great and helpful that Google can be, searching for the answer regarding your baby can lead you to some pretty advice. What worked for one particular individual may not be the best thing for you. Searching Google for symptoms of something your baby has is also quite bad, that’s what we have health professionals for. Some of the stuff I searched for when Keira was younger just lead me to ridiculous reasons and made me panic even more! 
So yes, using Google for baby related things will not be on my to do list any more.

2. Not doing things by the book.

All babies are different and they all follow their own schedule. All of these baby websites have these milestones with ages of when a baby should be doing them, I’ve found that a baby will only do something when they’re ready rather then when someone has said they should be doing it. 
Healthcare professionals have guidelines of when to wean, how often and how much they should be drinking or when to move them into their own room but a baby doesn’t go by a clock. If you’re baby isn’t ready to do something then you can force them to. Mother knows best, any parent will tell you that. A mother’s instinct is always right.

3. Not keeping on top of the housework.

The housework can always wait, you’re children growing up can’t. When Keira was born I tried my hardest to keep on top of things, but it just wasn’t possible. When she started moving around and playing with toys the house was constantly a mess because every time I put something away, she’d drag it back out again. Sure I felt like a lazy parent because my house would be horrific by the end of the day but at least I knew my child was happy and that I hadn’t miss her do anything. 

4. Not buying lots of newborn clothes.

The amount of times in the day that you have to change a newborn thanks to pee, poop and sick it is just ridiculous to keep putting them in cute little outfits. It’s just not practical. When Keira was still a newborn I bought all the cute little outfits and dresses and it was quite difficult to dress her in them just for her to get them messy within minutes.
This time we’re just using vests and sleepsuits. They’re comfortable for baby and easy to change if need be. I have a toddler to contend with during the day so I need to do things that consume as little time as possible.

5. Not worrying about breastfeeding.

Everyone criticises you for not breastfeeding your baby, and you’re constantly reminded that “breast is best”, but sometimes it just isn’t for you. I didn’t breastfeed with Keira and I had my reasons for that but I still had people looking down on me because I had chosen to fed my baby formula. She has grown up no different other children and she’s never been ill so using formula really can’t be as bad as some make it out to be.
I have chosen to breast feed Joshua but it is difficult and it is demanding so I don’t know how long it will last but I won’t beat myself up about it if it’s something I decide to stop doing because I know that no matter what I choose to do, my baby will be happy and healthy with a full tummy!
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Keira’s 19 Month Update

What a fabulous month it’s been! Keira finally became a big sister, and what an amazing sister she’s been. She loves her little brother and it’s clear to see, her eyes light up when she sees him and she’s forever giving him kisses and cuddles! When we’re out she doesn’t even leave Joshua’s side. It’s so cute.
Keira’s changed a lot this past month, she learnt so many new things and I’m genuinely impressed with what she’s learnt. She has learnt loads of new words. She can finally say Peppa, it’s took her ages to say it but we got there!

We’ve finally learnt where our belly is! Took us a while but we got there! Keira also knows where her fingers are and wiggles her fingers when we ask. It’s super cute.
Keira’s learnt the meaning of ‘no’. She can’t actually say no, but if we ask her to do something or if she wants something then she can shake her head to let us know that she doesn’t want it or to do something. It isn’t bad enough that she says no to everything, yet, but she does it for most things.
Keira’s social skills seem to have taken a step backwards and this was before Joshua was born. I thought that by now she might be used to seeing both my family as well as Darren’s but she isn’t. She still screams and clings to us when she sees someone who isn’t me or Darren, it’s very upsetting to see her like this because it must upset quite badly. She sees both families quite often but it’s like she can’t settle around them, I don’t want her to not see them but I don’t want her to get so upset around them. It’s a lose-lose situation.
Keira’s eating habits are also going backwards. She’s turning her nose up to most foods, apart from her absolute favourites. I don’t know what to do about it, I try introducing so many different foods but she just won’t even let it past her lips. Although, saying that, she has recently started to eat chips so that was a step forward.
The tantrums are terrible. She tantrums over anything that isn’t her way. It’s Keira’s way and Keira’s way only. If you tell her off, she’ll literally just stand there and scream until you give in and pick her up, but even then it’s still touch and go until she’s ready to finish the screaming tantrum.
She’s been sleeping fantastically. Every once in a while she’ll wake during the night but she normally settles rather quickly, but she’s been sleeping all night from 8pm to 7:30am! Just a shame that Joshua wakes every 2 hours!!
Keira’s new found obsession is to put clothes on but only on her legs. Doesn’t matter if it is trousers, a top or a bib everything has to go on her legs. She hasn’t figured out how to take clothes off, but she definitely knows how to put them on!
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