4 Fail-Proof Ways to Deal with Tantrums

Tantrums are the bane of my life right now. Everyone warned me about the terrible two’s and they were right to. That was an awful year for tantrums. Admittedly it started before Keira turned two, probably around 18 months, but they were terrible. There was no denying it. What no one warned me about was just how much worse it got once they turned three years old. Wow! I am not kidding when I say the “terrible” two’s were quite pleasant compared to what we’re dealing with now! It’s made a million times worse now that Joshua has learnt how to throw a tantrum, although his are minor and easily treatable, he’s so stroppy but he’s easy to please with a cuddle.

Now, I feel like I’m pretty clued up on this tantrum malarky and even though I’m not a pro, I sure feel like I have a fair bit of experience in toddlers and tantrums. I know that every parent does things their own way, and there really is no right or wrong when it comes to parenting as long as everyone is safe, happy and healthy. So I’m not going to say that these are things that you should do, but they are things that work for me and my children, and if you’re having a bit of trouble finding something to work for your family then maybe you could give some of them a go (if you haven’t already).


I always offer a cuddle, a shoulder for them to cry on. A lot of the tantrums my children throw are down to frustration. Not being able to express themselves how they want to. So I know that it can be a pain for them and I want them to know that if there’s something they can’t do, then it’s okay. They’ll get there eventually. It just takes time and practice.

Tickle Attacks

If none of the above work, then a tickle attack is always a winner, although I try not to do this one when we’re in public. It provokes a lot of smiles and a lot of giggles, which normally means the tantrum gets quickly forgotten about because we end up chasing everyone around the room trying to tickle one another.

The Crying Bean Bag

Sometimes, my kids have a meltdown just because they want to. There is nothing specific causing the tantrum and they just want to have a bit of a cry and a shout. And that’s okay, I know that I always feel better after a good cry, or even after a good shout! It’s like a release and I’m sure they feel the same. So we have a bean bag that we sit on when we want to cry and shout. Once we’ve finished we can come off the bean bag. I also use this bean bag when nothing else works to help calm a tantrum that’s caused by not being able to have something they want.


This is my tantrum go to when nothing else has worked. Doesn’t matter where I am, or what I’m doing, the art of persuasion has a very high success rate. I normally use things like chocolate, sweets or even new toys to calm the tantrum. Of course this one only really works when they’re not throwing a wobbly over not having said items.

And they are my fail-proof ways to deal with a tantrum. Admittedly there have been times when none of these have worked and everyone has ended up in tears with the dog barking, the neighbours must wonder what on earth is going on, but that’s okay. We’re all allowed a bad day from time to time.
Is there anything you do to help deal with a tantrum?
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  1. David Elliott

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Never thought of having a bean bag chair to be able to have a tantrum into. But I am glad that my daughter didn't have to many of them. In fact I think I only remember one. She's been good when it comes to them.

  2. ArmidasWorld

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    My daughters are all grown up now but reading through your tips brought back memories. Great read!

  3. meganschaus

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Oh man as a mom to a two year old tantrums are very common. I find that the cuddle works most efficiently for my little guy.

  4. kristabeldubois

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    This is so sweet. In Nigeria where I grew up you can't throw a tantrum. If you do, you either get a spanking or get ignored. Either way you deal with your own issues. lol

  5. Jazz

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    I'll be honest and say number one would not be on my list. LOL! I'd replace that with Re-direction or Ignoring The Tantrum all together. My kid would be throwing tantrums for the sake of getting sweets or new toys if I did #1. On another note, tickles are great! I definitely agree with the cuddles. It has helped a lot when my kids were that age.

  6. Brandi Kennedy

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Oooh, I love the idea of the bean bag! I really think sometimes kids just need a good cry – at least, my youngest definitely does. Giving her the freedom to do so in an acceptable (non-public) environment has made all the difference for her.

  7. Wanderlust Vegans

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    These are some really great tips for new parents. I shall pass this along to the once I know.

  8. AiringMyLaundry

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Tickle attacks usually work. Or I would just calmly remove my kids from the situation. If they flipped out in a store, I'd leave the cart, grab my cart, and take them outside. I'd remind them how we behave, and most of the time they got it. If they didn't, we left.

  9. Neena & Nique

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Wow when i have a baby i'll surely know all this stuff thanks for the information may pass it on to my friend ♥

  10. Cynthia Nicoleti

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    I remember those days. It can be very difficult to deal with children that throw tantrums. You gave great tips.

  11. Jessi Joachim

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Cuddles and tickles always worked well for me, I never did persuasion though because I always thought it would reinforce the behavior. Thankfully my daughter has just about grown out of that phase, now she just has an attitude lol

  12. Neimi Navaja

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Such an interesting post! thanks for sharing this important info with us

  13. Jessica Taylor

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    I always offer cuddles, but sometimes it ends up in a battle. Tantrums are so frustrating for everyone!

  14. Masshole Mommy

    13 April, 2017 at 7:47 am

    With both of my boys, walking away and ignoring it worked really well. As long as I didn't give them the attention they were looking for – the tantrum only lasted a few minutes.

  15. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:48 am

    Wish that worked for my children. They scream louder if I ignore them.

  16. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:49 am

    They really are, and I find a lot of the time that I offer a cuddle is when they really don't want to be touched.

  17. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:50 am

    Persuasion only really works when it's a tantrum that isn't over not getting what they want.

  18. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:50 am

    Tantrums are certainly hard on us all.

  19. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:51 am

    It helps to be prepared.

  20. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:52 am

    I don't think I've ever left a store due to a tantrum, I'm far too stubborn to allow the tantrum to defeat me haha.

  21. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:52 am

    That's it, and I think it helps that they know they have their own place to express their feelings.

  22. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:55 am

    Yeah #1 only really works when they aren't throwing a tantrum over not getting what they want. But in all honesty, that only really gets used when we're in public and they're really bad! Anything to stop them creating a scene.

  23. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:56 am

    Everyone deals with things in their own way.

  24. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:56 am

    A good cuddle always works great.

  25. Amy and Tots

    13 April, 2017 at 7:57 am

    Oh how I envy your luckiness!

  26. duffelbagspouse travels

    14 April, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    I use tickles to death. Once you make them laugh, you've won.

  27. Crystal

    14 April, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    These are great tips.. we always sent our kids tot he naughty step when they were being bad or having tantrums.

  28. ana de jesus

    14 April, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    I really like the concept of the 'crying bean bag'. Your right we all need a space to shout and cry so why can't kids? x

  29. CourtneyLynne

    20 April, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Great tips!!!! Tickle attacks work wonders on my daughter. Even at 5 she can be having a huge tantrum and one little tickle fest and she's back to being chill again lol

  30. Kim Marie

    20 April, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Oh wow such helpful tips! The bean bag is too cute.. I will certainly be using these in the future 🙂

  31. Xoneia Tayag

    20 April, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Tantrums are definitely not easy to deal with especially with toddlers who try to get their way by crying but you need a plan to handle those otherwise the kids will be used to it. I think these are great tips!

  32. Mai C.

    20 April, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Tantrums are terrible! I have twins and it's never easy especially when they decide to throw a tantrum at the same time. I think these are great. The cuddles always work although I don't really want them to think that throwing a tantrum is a good way to get my affection.

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