Tantrums are the bane of my life right now. Everyone warned me about the terrible two’s and they were right to. That was an awful year for tantrums. Admittedly it started before Keira turned two, probably around 18 months, but they were terrible. There was no denying it.
What no one warned me about was just how much worse it got once they turned three years old. Wow! I am not kidding when I say the “terrible” two’s were quite pleasant compared to what we’re dealing with now! It’s made a million times worse now that Joshua has learnt how to throw a tantrum, although his are minor and easily treatable, he’s so stroppy but he’s easy to please with a cuddle.
Now, I feel like I’m pretty clued up on this tantrum malarky and even though I’m not a pro, I sure feel like I have a fair bit of experience in toddlers and tantrums. I know that every parent does things their own way, and there really is no right or wrong when it comes to parenting as long as everyone is safe, happy and healthy. So I’m not going to say that these are things that you should do, but they are things that work for me and my children, and if you’re having a bit of trouble finding something to work for your family then maybe you could give some of them a go (if you haven’t already).
I always offer a cuddle, a shoulder for them to cry on. A lot of the tantrums my children throw are down to frustration. Not being able to express themselves how they want to. So I know that it can be a pain for them and I want them to know that if there’s something they can’t do, then it’s okay. They’ll get there eventually. It just takes time and practice.
If none of the above work, then a tickle attack is always a winner, although I try not to do this one when we’re in public. It provokes a lot of smiles and a lot of giggles, which normally means the tantrum gets quickly forgotten about because we end up chasing everyone around the room trying to tickle one another.
The Crying Bean Bag
Sometimes, my kids have a meltdown just because they want to. There is nothing specific causing the tantrum and they just want to have a bit of a cry and a shout. And that’s okay, I know that I always feel better after a good cry, or even after a good shout! It’s like a release and I’m sure they feel the same. So we have a bean bag that we sit on when we want to cry and shout. Once we’ve finished we can come off the bean bag. I also use this bean bag when nothing else works to help calm a tantrum that’s caused by not being able to have something they want.
This is my tantrum go to when nothing else has worked. Doesn’t matter where I am, or what I’m doing, the art of persuasion has a very high success rate. I normally use things like chocolate, sweets or even new toys to calm the tantrum. Of course this one only really works when they’re not throwing a wobbly over not having said items.
And they are my fail-proof ways to deal with a tantrum. Admittedly there have been times when none of these have worked and everyone has ended up in tears with the dog barking, the neighbours must wonder what on earth is going on, but that’s okay. We’re all allowed a bad day from time to time.
Is there anything you do to help deal with a tantrum?