4 Fail-Proof Ways to Deal with Tantrums

Tantrums are the bane of my life, and no one warned me that the three's were worse than the two's.
Tantrums are the bane of my life right now. Everyone warned me about the terrible two’s and they were right to. That was an awful year for tantrums. Admittedly it started before Keira turned two, probably around 18 months, but they were terrible. There was no denying it. What no one warned me about was just how much worse it got once they turned three years old. Wow! I am not kidding when I say the “terrible” two’s were quite pleasant compared to what we’re dealing with now! It’s made a million times worse now that Joshua has learnt how to throw a tantrum, although his are minor and easily treatable, he’s so stroppy but he’s easy to please with a cuddle.

Now, I feel like I’m pretty clued up on this tantrum malarky and even though I’m not a pro, I sure feel like I have a fair bit of experience in toddlers and tantrums. I know that every parent does things their own way, and there really is no right or wrong when it comes to parenting as long as everyone is safe, happy and healthy. So I’m not going to say that these are things that you should do, but they are things that work for me and my children, and if you’re having a bit of trouble finding something to work for your family then maybe you could give some of them a go (if you haven’t already).


I always offer a cuddle, a shoulder for them to cry on. A lot of the tantrums my children throw are down to frustration. Not being able to express themselves how they want to. So I know that it can be a pain for them and I want them to know that if there’s something they can’t do, then it’s okay. They’ll get there eventually. It just takes time and practice.

Tickle Attacks

If none of the above work, then a tickle attack is always a winner, although I try not to do this one when we’re in public. It provokes a lot of smiles and a lot of giggles, which normally means the tantrum gets quickly forgotten about because we end up chasing everyone around the room trying to tickle one another.

The Crying Bean Bag

Sometimes, my kids have a meltdown just because they want to. There is nothing specific causing the tantrum and they just want to have a bit of a cry and a shout. And that’s okay, I know that I always feel better after a good cry, or even after a good shout! It’s like a release and I’m sure they feel the same. So we have a bean bag that we sit on when we want to cry and shout. Once we’ve finished we can come off the bean bag. I also use this bean bag when nothing else works to help calm a tantrum that’s caused by not being able to have something they want.


This is my tantrum go to when nothing else has worked. Doesn’t matter where I am, or what I’m doing, the art of persuasion has a very high success rate. I normally use things like chocolate, sweets or even new toys to calm the tantrum. Of course this one only really works when they’re not throwing a wobbly over not having said items.

And they are my fail-proof ways to deal with a tantrum. Admittedly there have been times when none of these have worked and everyone has ended up in tears with the dog barking, the neighbours must wonder what on earth is going on, but that’s okay. We’re all allowed a bad day from time to time.
Is there anything you do to help deal with a tantrum?
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  1. Never thought of having a bean bag chair to be able to have a tantrum into. But I am glad that my daughter didn't have to many of them. In fact I think I only remember one. She's been good when it comes to them.

  2. I'll be honest and say number one would not be on my list. LOL! I'd replace that with Re-direction or Ignoring The Tantrum all together. My kid would be throwing tantrums for the sake of getting sweets or new toys if I did #1. On another note, tickles are great! I definitely agree with the cuddles. It has helped a lot when my kids were that age.

  3. Oooh, I love the idea of the bean bag! I really think sometimes kids just need a good cry – at least, my youngest definitely does. Giving her the freedom to do so in an acceptable (non-public) environment has made all the difference for her.

  4. Tickle attacks usually work. Or I would just calmly remove my kids from the situation. If they flipped out in a store, I'd leave the cart, grab my cart, and take them outside. I'd remind them how we behave, and most of the time they got it. If they didn't, we left.

  5. Cuddles and tickles always worked well for me, I never did persuasion though because I always thought it would reinforce the behavior. Thankfully my daughter has just about grown out of that phase, now she just has an attitude lol

  6. With both of my boys, walking away and ignoring it worked really well. As long as I didn't give them the attention they were looking for – the tantrum only lasted a few minutes.

  7. Yeah #1 only really works when they aren't throwing a tantrum over not getting what they want. But in all honesty, that only really gets used when we're in public and they're really bad! Anything to stop them creating a scene.

  8. Tantrums are definitely not easy to deal with especially with toddlers who try to get their way by crying but you need a plan to handle those otherwise the kids will be used to it. I think these are great tips!

  9. Tantrums are terrible! I have twins and it's never easy especially when they decide to throw a tantrum at the same time. I think these are great. The cuddles always work although I don't really want them to think that throwing a tantrum is a good way to get my affection.

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