Controversial Parenting Tag
Parenting isn’t the easy of tasks but there are always certain areas that spark debate, all of the opinions are my own and I don’t judge another person’s parenting choices as long as it’s safe!
1. Pro-life Vs. Pro-choice
I definitely feel as though I am pro-choice. I believe a woman should have the choice as to what happens to her body but I do not agree with using abortion/termination as a form of contraception. If you feel pregnant because you were too idiotic to get birth control/contraception than you should not use an abortion to fix that. I do believe that there are a lot of reasons as to why a woman would get a pregnancy terminated and I can’t imagine it being an easy path to choose but I don’t believe that it should be taken away from a woman’s choice.
2. Baby Wearing
I love the idea of baby wearing. I didn’t know much about it when Keira was younger, but I did have a carrier and I did use it from time to time. If I’d have known more about wraps, slings and various other carriers than I would have definitely used them and saved my arms from carrying her all the time! I have purchased a wrap for baby number 2 and I do plan on baby wearing most of the time as I believe that it will make life so much easier with a newborn and a toddler.
I don’t actively agree with circumcision, unless it is medically necessary, but I understand that it is incorporated into a lot of religious beliefs, I just know that it isn’t something that would benefit us if we were to have a son.
I can’t see why anyone would be against adoption. I think it’s amazing that we have a system that is able to help children go to loving homes and be given a life that their birth parents don’t think they could have given.
5. Baby Piercing
I’m not for baby piercing but I wouldn’t bash you for getting your baby’s pierced. I would never pierce Keira’s ears until she was able to ask me herself and understand what was going to happen. A piercing isn’t a fashion statement, it is a body modification and it can go horribly wrong.
6. Breast Milk Vs. Formula
I don’t have a problem with either. I formula fed Keira, for my own personal reasons, and I am choosing to try breast feeding with baby number 2, I even bought a breast pump so I can at least express. I think that women that do exclusively breast feed are wonderful, as are the women that chose to use formula for whatever reason.
I choose not to spank Keira and I won’t be using it as a method of discipline in the future. If that’s what you to choose to do and it works than fab, but it just doesn’t suit us. As far as discipline goes, we use a stern no a couple of times and then if that doesn’t work I’ll do a slow count to three. I rarely get to three as Keira normally listens by two but if I do have to get to three then I just move her away from wherever or whatever and continue doing that until she stops whatever she was doing.
I am definitely for co-sleeping as well as bed sharing. I bed shared with Keira until she was about 12.5/13 months. She was a terrible sleeper and would wake 4 to 5 times a night so it was more practical to have her in with us. It didn’t take us long to realise that she was possibly waking from us disturbing her through the night, Darren is a very loud snorer, so we tried her in her own room and she slept great only waking once, which she does now, but we will definitely be doing it again with baby number 2.
9. Home Vs. Public Vs. Private Vs. Charter Schooling
I really don’t think it matters how your child gets an education as long as they have the opportunity to. If you can afford to send your child/children to private school than fab, if you can’t and your child/children go to a public school that’s just as fab and if you have the time and patience to home school that is also fab!
I am 100% for vaccinations. Keira got all of hers and I intend on getting baby number 2 all of their jabs. I wouldn’t know what to do if my children got poorly from one of the diseases if I chose not to vaccinate. The pros definitely outweigh the cons.
11. Medicating Children
I don’t have a problem with this, if your child needs medicine to help make them feel better than there’s nothing wrong with that. We take painkillers when we have an ache or pain so why would you deny your child/children the same relief? I don’t automatically reach for the calpol every time Keira shows a sign of teething, luckily she isn’t a sicky baby and has only ever had 2 colds which didn’t need any medicine, I normally use calpol as a last resort if the other options haven’t worked.
12. Cloth Vs. Disposable
I absolutely love the idea and look of cloth nappies/diapers, I think they are so cute, I just don’t have the stomach to clean a poopy nappy and it’s this reason alone as to why I choose to use disposables.
13. Cry It Out
This is a very controversial topic and I’d rather get into it too much, but in simple terms it isn’t something that suits us. I have heard stories from other parents that have used various different forms of CIO, such as sleep training, and they say how it worked wonders for them but for me the sound of my child crying out for me is just heartbreaking enough and that is why I will never choose to use that method on any of my children.
As I said from the start, these are purely my opinions and are what I find works best for us as a family. I would not consider you as a bad parent if your opinions were different to mine mainly because every child/parent is different and different things work for different people!