Being Joshua’s Comfort
When Keira was a few months old she showed us just how independent she was. She was happy to fall asleep by herself, she would happily play on her own and she’s always wanted to just do everything by herself rather than have me or Darren do it for her. In fact she still does the same now. It’s only when she’s got frustrated that she can’t do something that she’ll ask us to help. Although she did have a bad case of separation anxiety and that lasted for nearly 2 years!
Joshua, on the other hand, is completely different. He is utterly dependant on both me and Darren. He isn’t really too fussed who, as long as someone is there. It’s only since having Zara that he’s managed to sleep in his cot and even though he’s doing well with that, he still wakes in the night for a cuddle.
At 15 months old we still have to cuddle and rock him to sleep for his nap and for bedtime. I’m not one for sleep training, it’s never sat comfortably with me, but I attempted some form of controlled crying with Joshua. I needed my bed space back, but he would just scream and scream and scream. No matter how many times I tried to calm him. So we just went back to cuddles and rocking.
Joshua very much relies on me and Darren to do most things for him, and it’s not very often that he will play by himself. Someone always has to be next to him, or he’ll sit on our lap while he plays.
Separation anxiety isn’t as bad with Joshua, although he does show some signs of it. It takes him a while to come round when we’re with other people but he’s nowhere near as bad as Keira once was.
So this is our life, me and Darren are used as a comfort for Joshua. As annoying as it can be when it comes to bedtime and night wakings, I wouldn’t have it any other way!