I know that this is one that has been done before by plenty of other parent bloggers, but I’m sure we all have our own take on it. After all, everyone parents differently and what matters to some is completely irrelevant to others. So this is my stamp on it, it’s also my chance to pull out some of the baby pictures of my three darlings and remind myself of those teeny tiny, wrinkly newborns.
Looking back, and knowing what I know now that I’ve had 3 children, there are some things that I would have done differently. There are definitely things I would have spent less time worrying over.
1. Enjoy those middle of the night snuggles.
One thing I see and read a lot is parents moaning about babies not sleeping through and being awake during the night time. Majority of babies don’t sleep through, gosh I’m lucky if my eldest 2 sleep through the whole night. I did find myself panicking about it when Keira was little though. But looking back now, I know that I should have cherished those cuddles just that little bit longer.
2. Don’t stress over how messy the house has got.
People used to tell me that they cleaned when the baby napped, but when any of mine napped I just wanted to lie on the sofa with a cup of coffee and watch rubbish TV. In fact that’s exactly what I do now. I don’t rush to do the washing up and I certainly don’t rush to pick all the toys up as soon as the terrors are asleep. I take the opportunity to grab a bit of me time, and of course I always sneak in a few squares of chocolate so that I don’t have to share them.
3. Take other people’s advice with a pinch of salt.
Like I said at the beginning, everyone does things differently and what works for one doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. If you like the idea then try it, it’ll either work or it won’t. I used to have advice thrown at me all the time when Keira was a baby and I was so overwhelmed with it all but I just took what I knew would work for me and disregarded what I knew wouldn’t.
4. Don’t Google symptoms.
This one is pretty obvious and it’s something we have all done. I would lay awake for hours at night searching for the answer to a symptom on Google and all it ever done was worry me more. Google is no doctor so it can’t diagnose anything, if there is something you’re unsure about it’s always best to speak to a health professional. That’s what they’re there for at the end of the day.
5. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
From anyone. Whether that’s your doctor, your parents, your friends or even your neighbour. Having a baby is a huge change to everything and it can all get so overwhelming. Even just having someone to talk to can make the biggest difference. Don’t feel embarrassed that you need help, there is nothing to be embarrassed about and most people are willing to help when there’s a little baby involved!